I find it funny that when people have nothing to say about something, they usually come up with some of the dumbest stuff to articulate. Let's look at death for instance because lately, it's been happening a lot. Everyone has something to say and it usually amounts to nothing at all. The stock line "sorry for your loss" is probably the dumbest thing that can be said at a time like that. Of course everyone is sorry that someone died and yes, the loss is tremendous because, like the ripple effect, it blows lives apart in one form or another. The closer you are to the person, the more devastating the loss. There are many times when no words can say or comfort anyone but still, people try and come up with something, even if it's something they saw on television to convey a thought.
Whey Dayna died, one of her family members said that they would "pray for her." Now, her being Pagan and believing that you "harm none," that was probably one of the dumbest things one could say. Another told me that they couldn't be here because they were a "pussy when it came to these things." The list goes on and on.
The best words I got were from an old lady who had lost her spouse three years before I lost Dayna. She told me that it would never get better, only different. The loss would never go away but you have to adapt to not let the pain and anger show or else it would consume you. I saw my mother go through the same thing along with Aunts and Uncles but I never saw them miss a step until one of my Aunts died. My uncle, stood at the cemetery and just lost his composure not caring what anyone thought or said at the time. There was his wife, a member of a large family and she was gone. I remember standing next to him and telling him that my grandparents were buried not more than fifty steps away. He wiped the tears from his eyes, looked at me and said "well, she'll be in good company."
Lately, people are yelling just for the sake of yelling. There is no rhyme or reason to what they say but most of the time it's just hot air being expelled to either get a rise out of others or to see who shouts the loudest. Either you're one way or your wrong according to today's standards. There is no common ground anymore because there is no intelligent discord anymore.
My father once told me that you never talk about religion, sex, or politics. Seems as though today that's what everyone wants to talk about. When the subject comes up, I usually go into my shell because I could care less about a person's politics, religion, or what they do in the bedroom. If you're proud of that, well, tell someone that cares. I like to find out the character of a person and usually, that can be found out in a minute or two. In my eyes, first impressions are the ones that matter.
A couple of weeks ago, I was sitting in my car at a local store. Since I have a handicapped placard, I parked in the space. Within a few minutes, a policeman was standing at my window greeting me. He told me quite sternly that I had parked my car illegally. I looked at my mirror, then at the officer in confusion. He told me that where I was parked was for vans with ramps. I asked if he was going to write a ticket, which would have been close to a thousand dollars, would have made my day a disaster. He smiled and told me that I needed to move it. I smiled, said absolutely and told him to have a good day. There was no confrontation, no swearing, nothing other than a couple of words between two people. Once things were resolved, we both wished each other a good day, civilly, and went about our business. Saddens me that more things can't be settled like this.